Could a Reverse Mortgage Save a Gray Divorce Settlement?

Mortgage
Written By Shannon Lindstrom

‍When couples over 60 decide to divorce, one of the toughest questions isn't about who gets the china — it's about where everyone is going to live. Housing is often the single biggest obstacle in a gray divorce, and finding a solution that protects both spouses' retirement security can feel impossible.‍ ‍

I see this all the time in my work as a Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert (CDRE®). For clients over 62, the "usual" options — selling the home outright or having one spouse refinance to buy out the other — don't always hold up in the real world. Qualifying for a new mortgage on fixed or retirement income can be complicated. And tapping retirement savings to fund a home purchase can quietly undo decades of careful planning.‍

That's where a lesser-known tool comes in: the Home Equity Conversion Mortgage (HECM), better known as a Reverse Mortgage. It's not the right fit for everyone, but for some, it can change the whole equation.‍ ‍

When It's Worth a Conversation

A reverse mortgage may be worth exploring if an individual;

· Is 62 or older with substantial equity in their home

· Wants to stay in the marital home, or purchase a new home after the divorce

· May not qualify for a traditional refinance

· Wants to protect retirement assets and preserve monthly cash flow

A Real-World Example

Picture a couple, both 68, going through a divorce. They sell the marital home and split the proceeds. Instead of paying cash outright or taking on a conventional mortgage, each spouse uses their share as a down payment and finances the rest with a HECM for purchase.

The outcome? Two separate, affordable homes — with no monthly principal and interest payments required. That's meaningful breathing room for two people trying to rebuild financial independence at an age when preserving retirement income matters most.‍‍‍ ‍

What to Know Before Recommending It‍

A reverse mortgage isn't a fit for every situation, and it comes with real requirements. Borrowers must continue living in the home as their primary residence and demonstrate they can cover property taxes, insurance, maintenance, and any applicable HOA fees. It's a tool, not a shortcut — and it deserves careful, honest evaluation.

Shannon Lindstrom, REALTOR® | CDRE® | MILRES | MRP | VCA
RE/MAX Results — Serving Minneapolis, St. Paul & the Twin Cities
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Shannon Lindstrom

Shannon Lindstrom is a Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert (CDRE®) and Realtor® with RE/MAX Results who specializes in the sale of residential property in divorce and family law matters throughout Minneapolis, Saint Paul, and surrounding communities across Minnesota. With more than 22 years of residential real estate experience in the Twin Cities, Ms. Lindstrom serves as a trained neutral — not an advocate for either spouse — bringing a disciplined, process-driven approach to what is often the most consequential asset in a divorce.

Ms. Lindstrom earned her CDRE® designation through the Ilumni Institute in 2023, is continuing her training through the CDRE® Master Program, and completed Collaborative Divorce training through the Collaborative Law Institute of Minnesota in 2026. This training equips her to work fluently across litigated, mediated, and collaborative matters—from low-conflict, cooperative sales to high-conflict, court-ordered dispositions—and to integrate seamlessly with attorneys, financial neutrals, mediators, mental health professionals, and the broader divorce team.

Her work is distinguished by three strengths family law professionals consistently rely on: clear, defensible documentation that holds up through negotiation, mediation, and trial; calibrated pricing and listing strategy grounded in current Twin Cities market data and built to withstand opposing scrutiny; and a calm, structured communication protocol that reduces friction between spouses, manages occupancy and showing logistics, and keeps the transaction on the court's timeline rather than the conflict's. Whether a file involves court-ordered sales, delayed cooperation, valuation disputes, or contested listing decisions, she approaches every matter with neutrality, precision, and steady professionalism.

With specialized training in divorce real estate and collaborative methodology, and a reputation for composure under pressure, Ms. Lindstrom is a trusted residential real estate resource for attorneys and divorce professionals handling Minnesota family law matters.

 

 

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