Navigating Minnesota Divorce Real Estate: Communicating Effectively with High-Conflict Individuals Using the BIFF Method

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Written By Shannon Lindstrom

Divorce involving real estate transactions is rarely simple. In Minnesota divorces, the process becomes significantly more complex when one or more parties exhibit high-conflict behavior. Emotional volatility, hostile communication, and repeated escalation can delay decisions, increase costs, and place unnecessary strain on all professionals involved.

For attorneys, real estate professionals, and divorcing parties alike, effective communication is not merely helpful—it is essential. One proven framework for managing these interactions is the BIFF Response Method, developed by conflict communication expert Bill Eddy.

Understanding High-Conflict Communication

High-conflict individuals often communicate in ways that are:

  • Emotionally charged

  • Accusatory or blaming

  • Lengthy and repetitive

  • Designed to provoke reactions

Responding emotionally or defensively tends to escalate conflict, create written records that can be misused in litigation, and stall progress on critical real estate decisions such as listing, pricing, or closing timelines.

This is where the BIFF method becomes an invaluable tool.

What Is the BIFF Response Method?

BIFF stands for:

  • Brief

  • Informative

  • Friendly

  • Firm

This structure allows professionals and divorcing parties to respond in a way that is clear, neutral, and legally sound—without reinforcing conflict dynamics.

1. Brief

Keep responses short and focused. Avoid unnecessary explanations or commentary. Lengthy responses invite further dispute and misinterpretation.

2. Informative

Provide only factual, relevant information. Eliminate emotional language, opinions, or rebuttals to accusations.

3. Friendly

Maintain a courteous and professional tone. Friendly does not mean personal—it simply reduces defensiveness and preserves credibility.

4. Firm

Set clear boundaries. Do not engage in arguments, speculation, or repeated debates over settled issues.

Applying BIFF in Minnesota Divorce Real Estate

In divorce-related real estate matters, BIFF responses are especially effective when addressing:

  • Disputes over listing price or timing

  • Communication through attorneys or court-ordered processes

  • Hostile emails or text messages

  • Attempts to derail showings, inspections, or closings

For example, instead of responding emotionally to an accusatory message, a BIFF response might simply confirm next steps, deadlines, or court-approved instructions—nothing more.

This approach protects all parties by:

  • Reducing escalation

  • Creating clean written records

  • Supporting court compliance

  • Keeping transactions moving forward

Why BIFF Matters

In Minnesota divorce cases, written communication is often discoverable and may be reviewed by attorneys, mediators, or judges. BIFF responses help ensure that every message reflects professionalism, neutrality, and compliance—rather than emotion or reaction.

When consistently applied, BIFF communication can significantly reduce conflict, shorten timelines, and help preserve financial outcomes during an already difficult life transition.

High-conflict situations do not require high-conflict responses. Whether you are navigating a divorce, supporting a client, or managing a real estate transaction under court oversight, the BIFF Response Method provides a structured, effective way to communicate clearly while protecting your position.

Professional, calm, and controlled communication is not weakness—it is strategy.

If you’re ready to sell your home and need expert advice, consider working with a divorce real estate expert like Shannon Lindstrom with RE/MAX Results who understands the unique challenges of the Twin Cities market.

Shannon Lindstrom, Realtor®, CDRE®, GREEN, MILRES, MRP, VCA
RE/MAX Results
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Maple Grove, MN 55369
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Shannon Lindstrom

Shannon Lindstrom is a Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert (CDRE®) handling the sale of real property in Family Law Cases in the Twin Cities and surrounding areas. Ms. Lindstrom is a reputable and accomplished Realtor known for her exceptional expertise in the real estate industry. In 2023, Ms. Lindstrom received her certification as a Divorce Real Estate Expert from the Ilumni Institute.

Ms. Lindstrom has established herself as a trusted advisor and resource for her clients. Armed with an in-depth knowledge of the local real estate market, she offers invaluable insights to both sellers and buyers, ensuring they make informed decisions with the information provided. Her extensive experience allows Ms. Lindstrom to offer impartial opinions on complex divorce real estate issues.

Throughout her successful career, Ms. Lindstrom has built strong relationships with her clients, earning their trust through her transparent and honest approach. Her strong negotiation skills have led to numerous successful transactions and satisfied clients. Ms. Lindstrom is uniquely positioned to serve divorcing parties and their attorneys by offering her objective and neutral expert opinion in low and high conflict divorce matters involving real property.

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